To live in the Closet or not?

So being a CD has zero to do with homosexuality. Zero. Except that in both cases you have males (most often) who also keep it in the closet Sometimes both CDs and homosexuals are marrried, have children....a "normal" life. Black call having secret , same sex partners, if I remember correctly "the low side". Can go on for years. They might be "true" to their secret love....but living lies with their "loved ones" at home. How painful can that be? No need to go into any big psychological mumbo-jumbo or deep down soul-searching philosophical stuff....just thinking of what it must be like for the every day moment in one's life.