Hello 'Seawife'..I can see that you are having problems getting good fitting Lingerie. The most common answer is to use some shape wear, this is quite readily available everywhere now days. Some of the modern shape wear is very attractive on it's own try google for 'Shape wear' ..you should find a range of quite attractive lingerie which includes some figure smoothing materials for various parts of you body, some of which are quite sexy by themselves.......I'm not an expert on this by any means but I sometimes use these aids...I do hope that this has been of some use to you. Best Wishes ....Cristina Cross.