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My impression is that a lot of women do NOT like the competition from cross dressing men some of whom can look way better than lota cis-women do. If they are a bit insecure it probably isn't going to go well. But hey, if you've got it. FLAUNT IT. It's fun to show off and does it ever make some cis-women mad.....

I have been where you are, my advice is this be honest with yourself, and your wife. If she is inclined to divorce you, you are rid of her, start fresh, be honest with the next one. If she is a keeper well and good treasure her. Don't try to be someone you are not to please anyone. Come out of the closet to a select few, not everyone needs to know what color of underwear you are wearing. You will find that most people do not care. I came out to a few, was outed by quite a few, banned, shunned, jailed for a night. Not fun, I don't recommend it. Be careful with your outings. Do make friends, you'll be glad you met a few nice friends.

This is so like my life! We must be twins xx

Hello!!!
I’m going through the same issue as you.. my wife and I haven’t been intimate in over 17 years!! We still share the same bed!! Also I haven’t found an answer either!! I’m also attracted to others like us!!

Only idea I can côme up with is something like this. To see what her reaction is. Tell her you saw this woman while shopping and was really impressed on how attractive she looked.That is until you heard her answer a sales persons question. She was a he! Ask her if she has ever encountered something along this line. Then carry on a bit about how womanly she-he looked and how you were totally fooled into thinking she was real.One way or the other you might get some impression on what her feelings about might be. Can't promise it will work but if you think about it you might come up with something on your own. Just throwing it out there hon. Kiss's Carolyn.

Welcome to the club Honey. Ya I have a similar marital situation. We will stay together but I want to get closer to CD friends and spend some time with them. A lot of cis-women are not very supportive in fact I have the sense that most are hostile to their SO cross-dressing. I'm way beyond worrying much about it. I also have the feeling that cis-women cannot take the competition of good looking guys en femme after letting themselves go. Just my 2 cents. As for what neighbours think of me when they might see me going out en femme I really don't give a fiddler's f$#%%ck.

This is one of the biggest CD dilemmas. Most women (wives included) are not accepting of the CD lifestyle. Many CDs who come out end up in divorce and lose life long friends. Most of the CDs that keep dressing a secret get to live with guilt and frustration for most of their lives. A very few CDs find that their wives are willing to accept their dressing. Only you can evaluate your situation and weigh the risk of consequences. I struggled with this for weeks before I finally told my wife. Lost sleep for days and eventually felt compelled to tell her. I am one of the lucky few CDs with an accepting wife. Here's hoping you make a good choice.