We work hard to identify and remove suspicious accounts quickly, but it is still important to stay alert when meeting someone new online.

Most people you meet here are genuine. However, scammers can appear on any social or dating platform, and sometimes they use attractive photographs, BDSM roles such as Mistress or Master, romantic interest, or highly flattering messages to gain someone's trust.

Ask Yourself a Few Simple Questions

  • Does their interest feel genuine and personal, or could the same message have been sent to anyone?
  • Do they actually mention things from your profile, or are their messages mostly generic compliments and introductions?
  • Are their details consistent? Pay attention if their age, location, name, occupation, relationship intentions, or personal story suddenly changes.
  • Are they trying to establish an intense relationship unusually quickly?
  • Are they immediately calling you their slave, submissive, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, or similar before you have really got to know each other?
  • Are they quickly trying to move you onto WhatsApp, Telegram, email, or another service?

Don't Judge Someone Simply by Their Appearance

A young or attractive person can genuinely be interested in someone older, a cross-dresser, a submissive, or someone who does not consider themselves conventionally attractive.

Appearance alone is not evidence of a scam.

Instead, ask whether their behaviour and story make sense and remain consistent over time.

BDSM and Mistress/Master Accounts

Being a Mistress, Master, Dominant, submissive, or having another BDSM interest does not make someone suspicious.

However, be cautious when someone you have only just met immediately asks for:

  • A "tribute" or payment
  • Gift cards or cryptocurrency
  • Money to prove your obedience
  • A registration or verification fee
  • Payment before they will speak to or meet you
  • Banking or financial information
  • Intimate photographs that clearly show your face
  • Personal information that could be used to identify or embarrass you

A genuine BDSM dynamic should still involve communication, consent, boundaries, and trust.

Look for Patterns

One unusual detail does not necessarily mean someone is a scammer. Several warning signs together are much more significant.

For example, a profile that sends the same introduction to many members, gives different ages to different people, quickly asks for money, and refuses reasonable verification should be treated with considerable caution.

Protect Yourself

  • Never send money because someone you've just met pressures you to do so.
  • Avoid sending identifiable intimate photographs until you are confident you know who you are dealing with.
  • Do not share passwords, banking information, verification codes, or other sensitive information.
  • If something doesn't add up, slow the conversation down and ask questions.
  • A genuine person should normally be able to have a normal conversation without pressuring you.

Something Doesn't Feel Right?

Report the profile to us.

We review suspicious activity and remove accounts when there is sufficient reason to believe they are misusing the platform.

Reporting a profile does not automatically mean that person has done anything wrong. It simply allows us to investigate and help keep the community safe.